I still remember how it felt to receive my first random act of kindness from a stranger. I was in utter disbelief that someone I don’t know would pay for my coffee without wanting something in return. You see, the norm is to only operate within the boundaries of the exchange economy – you need something, you also need to give something in return. Even if it’s ‘just’ money. When we come across something for free, we question the ulterior motive. It doesn’t have to be like that, though. My mission is to create more normality and acceptance around kind acts towards others. I am a firm believer that acts of kindness can transform the world and inspire others to be kinder.
RANDOM ACTS OF KINDNESS
Being surrounded by people who are kind and grateful changes the energy that surrounds you to a higher vibrating frequency. Such environment is where creativity, happiness and joy is cultivated – why anyone wouldn’t want to do it, right? I’ve got a number of kindness cards at home from the Wake Up Project and I try giving out at least 1 every week. It’s just such an amazing feeling being able to gift even just a cup of coffee to someone who isn’t expecting it at all. It is scientifically proven that the person who is the recipient of an act of kindness becomes more likely to do something nice for someone else in the future. It stops people in their tracks, often snapping them out of their ‘daily grind coma’ and usually elevates their endorphin levels for a happier mood.
But acts of kindness don’t have to be random. Everybody would have a relative or friend who at some point or another needed help and support. It is an actual choice that one has to make to get involved and do something nice for someone. Compassion and empathy play a big role in this constellation. Practicing kindness doesn’t necessarily have to come from a place of ‘need’. It could be something you do just because you’d like to do it and you want to express gratitude in a kind way.
CONSIDERED ACTS OF KINDNESS AND HOW THEY TRANSFORM US
I’ve got one such great story for you. When my friend Sarah asked me to be her birthing partner, I didn’t quite know what that entailed. I don’t have children of my own and never witnessed a birth of a child so I was clearly very oblivious to the importance of this role.
We attended a few classes that talked about the birth preparation however what we weren’t ready for was a premature labour. I just landed in Melbourne at the time (for a business trip) when I received the call from Sarah stating her water broke and she needs to go into the hospital. This was 2 months prior to the due date. Needless to say I felt horrible I wasn’t there to drive her but luckily another friend ‘jumped in’ to assist. Sarah spent another 8 days in hospital before the arrival of her baby boy, Maximilian.
Witnessing this incredible moment of birth was one of the most amazing experiences of my life. What really touched me, though was the fact Sarah wanted me to be that person in there with her. I regarded that as an incredible act of kindness on her part even though after comparing notes just recently, she thought it was so kind of me to agree. I guess it’s the best scenario of mutual gratitude where we were able to create unforgettable memories for one another.
Because Max was born prematurely, he had to stay in the hospital for a month where he was cared for by some amazing nurses. When he was released, Sarah and I thought we would organise something nice for not just the nurses who looked after Max but the entire staff at the newborn care center who look after hundreds of babies with such patience and love.
WHEN OTHERS JUMP ONTO THE ‘KINDNESS TRAIN’
I thought we can’t really go wrong with flowers so in attempt to spread the opportunity to exercise kindness I approached the gorgeous Zoe Lamont from Petal Post Sydney to see whether she wanted to jump onto the ‘kindness train’.
“I would love Petal Post to help out with your good cause. Glad to hear Max arrived safely and I’m certain was in great hands. Midwives and nurses deserve flowers, always!” Zoe
We are so grateful to you, Zoe for wanting to make a difference and supporting us with this initiative. So much love for your kind heart…
Thanks to my great boss at work who was very supportive of the cause as well (his share on the kindness train), I was able to leave work a bit earlier to collect the flowers and deliver them to the hospital with Sarah and Max.
Needless to say, the ladies were delighted and didn’t expect it at all. They loved the fact that each of them got a little bouquet to take home to enjoy. I must say, I was on such a ‘high’ seeing their faces light up when they saw a box filled with gorgeously wrapped flowers each carrying the message: “Thank you so much for your amazing support. You are appreciated.”
WHAT ACTS OF KINDNESS ARE YOU GOING TO CARRY OUT?
I’d like to encourage you to seek opportunities for acts of kindness in your every day life and observe yourself in the moment. Notice what’s coming up for you, the reaction of the person and how you can propel yourself to do more of it in the future.
As the saying goes: ‘What goes around, comes around.’ Well, this would be the best kind of surprise that could ever come back to you to brighten your day. Act from a kind place, always. You will never regret it.
And on that note, have a fabulous week Lovers. I hope you enjoyed reading about my kindness train experience. Is there one you’d like to share with me? Please tell us about it in the comments.
Love and light,
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